He doesn't even need to ask
Over a month ago, I watched the absolutely beautiful My Own Private Idaho. I had a bit of a revelation after watching the film. Which is kind of interesting because it has nothing to do with the themes that were brought up in the film. If you have not watched My Own Private Idaho, I suggest that you check it out. It is hauntingly beautiful and River Phoenix is such a beautiful soul.
Anyways, back to the topic of my post. I was thinking about how beautiful Keanu Reeves looked in the movie and how he could seriously get it. Jokingly I said to myself that "he doesn't even need to ask". Then a light bulb went off in my head. What exactly was I insinuating by that remark. Was I suggesting that because he was so attractive he does not need to ask for my permission to have sexual relations with me? After much thought, I realized that was what I was suggesting. As someone who considers themselves to be a feminist, this revelation hit me like a ton of bricks. I was completely disgusted with myself.
It seems like an innocent remark but this kind of thinking is what perpetuates rape culture. This remark allows for there to be a lack of male accountability. It gives them a pass to treat women anyway they please. If they want to fuck you they do not need to ask because you are already willing. What happens if a young female finds herself in a situation where she gets taken advantage by an attractive male whom she had a crush on? Who is to blame for the situation? Does the female get blamed because she at one time had wanted him or does he get blamed for believing he was entitled to her beaver? In most cases we tend to blame the victim.
This revelation was a huge wake up call for me. It made me reflect on the words I say and most importantly how I think about things. No matter how beautiful Keanu Reeves is( and other men of his caliber) he most definitely needs to ask to get it. Please tell me what you think about this topic? Do you agree or do you think it is a bit of an overstretch?
Anyways, back to the topic of my post. I was thinking about how beautiful Keanu Reeves looked in the movie and how he could seriously get it. Jokingly I said to myself that "he doesn't even need to ask". Then a light bulb went off in my head. What exactly was I insinuating by that remark. Was I suggesting that because he was so attractive he does not need to ask for my permission to have sexual relations with me? After much thought, I realized that was what I was suggesting. As someone who considers themselves to be a feminist, this revelation hit me like a ton of bricks. I was completely disgusted with myself.
It seems like an innocent remark but this kind of thinking is what perpetuates rape culture. This remark allows for there to be a lack of male accountability. It gives them a pass to treat women anyway they please. If they want to fuck you they do not need to ask because you are already willing. What happens if a young female finds herself in a situation where she gets taken advantage by an attractive male whom she had a crush on? Who is to blame for the situation? Does the female get blamed because she at one time had wanted him or does he get blamed for believing he was entitled to her beaver? In most cases we tend to blame the victim.
This revelation was a huge wake up call for me. It made me reflect on the words I say and most importantly how I think about things. No matter how beautiful Keanu Reeves is( and other men of his caliber) he most definitely needs to ask to get it. Please tell me what you think about this topic? Do you agree or do you think it is a bit of an overstretch?
Comments
I'm sure you just had a harmless flight of fantasy. If Keanu Reeves had been close by and you had a chance to talk to him then would you have reacted the same way?
Or perhaps you meant, subconsciously that you would go out and ask Keanu Reeves (he doesn't even need to ask, you would ask him)?
;)